A comment left here yesterday by the very lovely Juliette Maxwell is the catalyst for today’s topic, and I’m so glad that she mentioned the murky conversation waters of whether or not to publicize your blog, because it’s a supremely interesting subject indeed!
Personally, I do. In fact, I even mentioned it in a presentation last year to my fellow Media & Communications students, and it’s precisely the reason why I landed the job that I have today. (How? Well, after seeing an advertisement for a position which sounded exactly like it had stepped into my dreams and then written itself based on those, I decided to apply for it, even though I was lacking approximately 40% of the necessary skills. Amazingly, I managed to land an interview, but during the process, my now-employer admitted that one of the main reasons she had agreed to meet me, despite the huge gaps in my knowledge, was because she had seen Frock & Roll listed on my resume`, visited it, and liked it!) My friends and family all read/are aware of it, it’s listed on my Facebook profile and often, if I meet somebody at an event who enquires about what I do, I’ll mention it to them, too.
This doesn’t necessarily mean that I parade around with an enormous public speaking system broadcasting my website to the world either, because I also ABSOLUTELY know what it’s like to have acquaintances, people with whom you probably wouldn’t conduct a social relationship outside of “hello, how are you today?”, suddenly know the ins and outs of your life and want to discuss them 24/7. Case in point: a 57 year-old male co-worker who I worked with a couple of years ago, while I was writing my previous blog, Miss Corrine.
Was he nice? Yes! Friendly? Absolutely! Was I flattered that he liked what I wrote enough to visit my website daily, and tell everyone that he knew about “this great new website” that he’d found? Of course! But did this mean that I constantly wanted to be called Miss Corrine by him in the workplace, e-mailed frequently and asked for endless relationship advice?! No, no, no! In fact, it was just plain awkward, and it was a powerful lesson in the perils of sharing everything about yourself online. These days, while I don’t particularly share any less, I do think a little more carefully about the possible consequences of blurting out the address of my website to anyone and everyone, ESPECIALLY if it’s somebody that I’m not so sure that I really want to be engaging or connecting with long term. (For example, the guy who persistently asked for my number at the bus stop a couple of weeks ago, in between projectile vomiting the contents of stolen bottles of vanilla essence, and couldn’t understand why I continually declined?! Yes. I could be making an alarmingly poor judgement call here, but I’m 99.9% sure that I don’t really need to see or hear from him again!)
Oh, the blogging word: it’s a tricky playground of ethics and rules! How do you navigate through it? Is your blog or website public knowledge in your social circle and if so, where do you drawn the line on when it’s not, and why? Have you ever experienced a negative blogging-related real life moment?